• PREPARING FOR YOUR PRINCE (4)

    So Boaz took Ruth, and she was his wife: and when he went in unto her, the Lord gave her conception, and she bare a son. And the women said unto Naomi, Blessed be the Lord, which hath not left thee this day without a kinsman, that his name may be famous in Israel. Ruth 4:13-14

    Most women who have read the book of Ruth wonder where they can find their Boaz. Boaz took Ruth from the field and bam! A sista was set up real nice. No, he wasn’t a prince but the story reminds me of what we recently witnessed.

    We’re a few weeks in to the marriage of Prince Harry and actress Meghan Markle. The wedding was just as historic as the actress –turned-Duchess marrying into royalty. (Albeit Meghan was a catch before her crown.) While women marveled at this noble union, it begs the question.

    Is the everyday woman prepared for her prince?

    No, I’m not saying every woman will marry into a family of royalty. However, women have the capacity to receive God’s best for them — their own prince per se. In order to discover if he’s the one, it’s crucial women do a self-check in the early stages. It’s easy to overlook or excuse the traits of a potential mate during the infatuation period. Yet, it’s imperative to use that time to dig deep before you invest your life into someone, only to discover later down the line he isn’t the ideal mate. In order to prepare for your prince, there are three questions that you should ask yourself — and have an honest answer:

    Am I what I want to attract? Proverbs 23:7 reminds us as he thinketh in his heart, so is he. I remember a period when I was attracting all sorts of crazy in my life! I realized although they were ‘special’, the true problem was me. Until I allowed the Lord to transform my heart and mind, I continued to be a magnet to problematic people. What we think, feel and ultimately believe about ourselves draws that same energy. It’s a ‘kind after its kind’ connection; our relationships are created based on what we portray. They mirror who we really  are. It’s okay to acknowledge that you have unresolved issues. It’s not about being perfect but becoming the best version of yourself which in turn, will attract like-minded individuals.

    Am I dating his present or his potential? Look, sis, all of us have seeds of potential. There is nothing wrong with seeing something in someone that hasn’t manifested. Keep this in mind, though: that potential may never rise to the surface. If you settle for someone where they are with the thought of them changing in the future, you can set yourself up for disappointment. We cannot control the outcome of another’s life. In the royal couple’s case, we have an idea of who Harry is now based on his actions outside of his title.  You can’t date a lazy frog with the hope that one day he miraculously  transforms into the prince you’ve dreamed of. He could.

    But he may not.

    Commitment with a mate who hasn’t arrived where they need to be for a mature and successful relationship could left you short-changed.  Measure your man by the Word of God and not on what you hope he becomes.

    Am I settling for less because I’m tired of waiting for God’s best? When Esau came in from hunting he was so famished he traded his birthright for a bowl of stew (Genesis  25:29-34). When we become so hungry for something, we tend to settle for anything. Whether if the reason is that biological clock is ticking loud, loneliness or anything else, don’t let feelings dictate your actions. How you feel in this season may cause you to overlook warning signs and settle down with someone who is not in God’s perfect will for you. There is no perfect person but there is someone God has just for you. Don’t ignore what could be red flags simply because you want somebody. Your somebody doesn’t have to be just anybody. Have patience until your prince comes.

    Just be ready.