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    “For the vision is yet for an appointed time, but at the end it shall speak, and not lie: though it tarry, wait for it; because it will surely come, it will not tarry.” Habakkuk 2:3

    We’re almost one month into 2019. It’s the time of year when we reflect on the months past and anticipate what’s in the year to come. Yes, we’re still focused on resolutions and doing vision boards. Excited, with our sight set on what 2019 could offer. After all, a new year means a new you!

    Eye roll.  Yes, I just rolled my eyes at my own words.

    I can’t lie. While I am grateful for God’s blessings and sustaining power, I’m a little salty. Why? Majority of my vision board  for 2018 was merely on the board and not reflective of the years’ outcome. I realize some mistakes I’ve made in the past when making resolutions for a new year. It’s not so much about a specific day or year but letting the Lord order my steps and trust Him for the outcome. No matter what I pursuit on my end, He controls the conclusion.

    “The lot is cast into the lap; but the whole disposing thereof is of the Lord.” Proverbs 16:33

    I don’t want to become the cynical woman who decides never to make any plans for a new year. However, resolutions don’t always come to pass.

    Here’s some reasons why  a new year doesn’t always lead to a new you and resolutions fall flat:

    Sudden unexpected life changes. Although I was amped for major moves in 2018, I had to push the pause button. My mother faced a bout with cancer. I had my own health issues. Multiple mammograms and breast MRIs.  My depression and anxiety returned.  I was exhausted; still suffering from  chronic insomnia, despite being medically treated. Although I needed this time for self-care, I was disappointed that I didn’t have the energy or clarity of thought to pursue more opportunities. I had plans — but had to leave them in the hands of God.  James 4:15 hits the nail on the head: “For that ye ought to say, If the Lord will, we shall live, and do this, or that.”

    Six words can change our outlook, despite unforeseen circumstances: “If the Lord will, I will…”

    Setting goals without proper planning.  As humans, we can err as we pursue our desires. Failure isn’t final but a lesson. One lesson I have learned? Having dreams without a measurable plan inevitably will not work. Yes, even with the most adept planning trial and error will occur. But when we have big dreams or decide to embark on a new journey, we need a map to help guide us. You and I can’t just wing it and except success. Proverbs 24:27 tells us, “Prepare thy work without, and make it fit for thyself in the field; and afterwards build thine house”.  Lay the right foundation with a specific strategy.

    Scattered ambitions. Being busy is not the same as being fruitful. If we’re all over the place, we can’t focus on our priorities. I’m reminded of Mary and Martha (Luke 10:38-42). Martha invited Jesus over but then was so busy with everything else she couldn’t glean from being in His presence. Her sister Mary was like, “Girl, bye. You do you in the kitchen; I’m chillin’ at the feet of Christ.” Martha was upset but Jesus called her out.

    “And Jesus answered and said unto her, Martha, Martha, thou art careful and troubled about many things: But one thing is needful: and Mary hath chosen that good part, which shall not be taken away from her.” Luke 10:41-42

    In our world, busyness appears to be synonymous with success. Not. Sometimes being busy is solely that — you’re just busy! Let the main thing be the main thing; everything else may become a distraction.

    Sometimes it’s not time. God isn’t confined to our timeline. You know the old school phrase, “He may not come when you want Him, but He’s always right on time!” While God is on time, it’s not always on our watch. It’s possible that what you desire is going to come to pass; just not now. God’s timing has nothing to do with a new year coming in. Even Jesus’ birth was set for a specific time.

    “But when the fulness of the time was come, God sent forth his Son, made of a woman, made under the law.” Galatians 4:4

    God does nothing haphazardly. If He so meticulously calculated our Savior’s arrival, He’s also over ours. God is preparing us for what’s ahead — and we may not be as ready as we think. God is also at work, positioning other factors as we wait. He aligns everything together that impacts our assignment.

    Some resolutions may not be God’s will. This is a hard one. God’s plan prevails over our own. I always say, “Every good plan is not a God plan.” It’s possible to manipulate our way to achieving what we desire, even outside of God’s will. However, Psalm 127:1 is a stark reminder on what happens when God isn’t in the plan.

    “Except the Lord build the house, they labour in vain that build it.”

    We have to trust that whatever the Lord desires for us will come to pass. We don’t have to wander outside His will to find success. Plus if it doesn’t come from Him, we shouldn’t want it.

    No matter what may be on your resolution list for 2019 God has His list, too. It’s a plan that is prepared (Jeremiah 29:11), perfect for you and will be performed at the right time. God is not limited to a 12-month period. Make the resolutions and surrender them to His care.  After all, according to Proverbs 16:9 although a man’s heart devises his way, the Lord directs his steps.